“Coaching helped me to find balance again, to learn self-love, self- care, self- worth and I discovered how to maintain that. I’ve taken my power back and reconnected with my true self. Through coaching, I was able to identify my behavioural patterns and to become aware of the type of men I’ve been attracted to who weren’t always good for me. Sometimes I chose unhealthy relationships with narcissistic men or I’d fall into the role of rescuer. In the past, I didn’t know how to hold boundaries with men, sometimes they took advantage of that and I got hurt. Through coaching, I gained the confidence to know and assert my boundaries rather than just smiling and pretending everything is OK when it isn’t. I now understand what my dealbreakers are and I know I have the power to say “No” when something doesn’t work for me or isn’t aligned with what I want and who I choose to be.
I listen to myself, my feelings, what I want and need to feel safe and ready to move forward with a relationship. I am no longer available for relationships with narcissistic men and I am not interested in playing the role of rescuer. I am choosing men who are emotionally available, warm, genuine with whom I can enjoy good conversation and have shared interests and values. Through coaching, I’ve learnt about myself, I’ve examined my own perspective and have opened myself up to new perspectives, different ways of seeing things and being in a relationship. I now feel more prepared and ready for a committed relationship. I feel calmer, I am not so anxious about dating anymore because I now feel I have awareness and the right tools. I’ve learnt not to be reactive, to be less judgemental, more open and accepting of men as they are. Rather than focusing on who I want a man I’m dating to be, I am open to discovering who he really is and whether he is right for me. We are not trained on how to be in relationships, we all have wounds from our past experiences and patterns.
I wish I’d known about Grandeur & Love when I was 21 years old. I would recommend Grandeur & Love to others who want to work on themselves and gain the awareness and tools to be ready for a relationship”