“Aside from my lovely friendship with Pam, I have also trusted her completely on my journey of personal development. She is so wise and caring. When I mentioned that I wanted to have a committed long-term relationship and she mentioned Phillipa I knew, although I was scared, that it would be worthwhile so I did and I did not regret it.
Phillippa really helped me to see some of the negative thoughts and habits I had which were preventing me from being where I wanted to be. I would not have seen this without her and she supported and encouraged me to grow.
It took time and commitment but it was incredible and I learned to think about things differently. Phillippa helped me with more than just my relationships. She helped me with work too and helped me to break free from negative relationships which I had a habit of getting into. She really helped me focus on me and the things I needed to do to get where I wanted, rather than [focus on] what other people were doing.
Coaching has been incredibly helpful for me. It helped me to make significant changes in a very short space of time. Phillippa has a very calm presence which made me feel at ease and she is very easy to talk to. Coaching provided me with a space where I felt safe to be vulnerable and honest. It was a very empowering process and provided me with accountability. It helped me to look at how I was showing up in my relationships and to take ownership.
It was challenging to take responsibility but I knew it was for my own good and I needed to make changes to be the person I wanted to be and to have the relationships, work and life I wanted. Phillippa was available and there for me but she also held boundaries in a caring way which was good for me.
As a result of coaching, I feel more confident in how I approach work. I’m confident in expressing what does and doesn’t work for me and this frees me up to think about other things that are important to me. I also now listen to other people differently, I can really be there for my mates which feels really good rather than me going to them for advice about my life like I used to in the past. Coaching helped me to feel secure in who I am and comfortable with myself and this helped me to change how I am in my relationships.
I achieved these changes by creating a clear vision on what I wanted, to be in a committed, loving, honest relationship with the potential for children, and I did not waver from this. The beauty of relationships can be adapting your views on things so that you can both be happy but there were some things I didn’t want. In the world of dating apps, finding love can be really hard and I had to let go of being treated badly, which was something I was used to, and to [be] brave.
I am now in a great relationship which is working really well. I am very happy with my partner and am very grateful. I give her the space she needs whereas in the past, I was dominating and invasive because I didn’t feel secure, I had a lot of self- doubt and I used to find it difficult to trust others and to trust that I was good enough.
I remember telling my current partner very early on in our “getting to know each other phase” that I wanted a committed relationship. Phillippa encouraged me to share what I wanted honestly with others and leave the choice up to them. I was terrified of doing this but funnily enough, my partner said she found this so refreshing and lovely, that she wanted that to and that she wished more guys were like that! Wow! I went from Timid Tim, to Mighty Man, whilst being petrified. Her friend even commented that she wished more guys were just honest about what they really wanted!
Working with Phillippa was a bit like moving a bumper car out of a super tight space for me. I would go forward, have a bump, nope that didn’t work. Go back have another bump, nope that didn’t work. But all the time I was moving and gradually shifting myself out of where I was. Now I’m on an open road and taking bumps much more in my stride!
Coaching helped me with my relationships in general, my romantic relationships, work relationships, friendships and it changed how I feel about myself. I now feel able to step into the next phase of my life. I am confident in my own decision-making and rather than relying on others’ opinions. I’ve learnt to trust myself.
I’m still growing. I still have to work on my trust issues but I’m so much better now. I feel safe and loved with my partner and I try my best to give that back to her. I think the most important thing is I had a true vision inside me of what I wanted and I sought the ways that would help me realise that.
Suffice to say seeing Phillippa helped me massively and a lady who I started to see whilst I was working with Phillippa is now going to be my wife and we are expecting our first baby! Dream achieved!
I would go as far as to say that anything Pam Chand is associated with, is going to be amazing. Delivering both quality and care which is what makes Pam so special. Not only is she objectively successful and a superwoman but she is also a caring person. She cares about others genuinely and wants to help them too, which makes her quite unique. Phillippa is also an incredibly effective, intelligent, challenging and caring coach. I am very happy with the choices I made.”