“I went into coaching feeling quite sceptical but as soon as I engaged with my coach, Phillippa, I understood that these conversations with her would be in a different league to other conversations I had had before. I thought I had a good understanding of myself, yet could not understand why I ‘got stuck’ in certain areas. Within our first conversation, Phillippa was able to hear barriers arising out of my beliefs about myself and others that were hidden to me. She could hear what I couldn’t hear and see what I couldn’t see. She really challenged me in an affirming way and helped me examine where my beliefs originated, and question whether they were true and whether or not they served me or hindered me. Situations that had seemed impossible to change became areas of possibility as Phillippa helped me identify for myself alternative beliefs that would help me enter situations/relationships in a different way thereby enabling change. Phillippa encouraged me and empowered me to identify issues and find my own solutions. She used language and concepts that really resonated with me.
I have now been practising empowering beliefs and found it really causes change! It is a relief to know that even if I cannot change a situation or another person, I can change how I show up and that produces the change! I am becoming able to move from predicting or seeking a particular outcome to being open to possibilities. It is fun, the pressure of win/lose is off, and possibilities that I had never thought of are now able to emerge. Phillippa is very practical which meant our time together was not spent on theory but ways of implementing change in day to day situations. I left each session feeling hopeful, motivated and eager to practice (and exhausted- in a good way!). Between sessions Phillippa would send helpful review notes with suggestions of ideas to focus on during the week as well as encouraging quotes and references.
The process went much deeper than I expected, we got down and dirty, it wasn’t just about cleaning my hands, it was like a full body wash! Engaging with coaching has literally been a life- changing experience for me as it was so practical and empowering. I felt really known, seen, heard, understood, accepted and empowered by my coach. I learnt to accept myself and be compassionate to myself and others. I gained courage, hope, positivity, freedom from limiting beliefs and openness to possibilities. I found the process very challenging, I needed to be willing to do the work and to take responsibility for how I was showing up in my relationships. It gave me the kick I needed out of victim mentality which I was familiar with. Coaching really empowered me to get over the inertia I had been feeling and to be proactive. We had a lot of fun, much joy and many laughs along the way too. The process gave me hope that where there are blockages, there is a way through. Phillippa helped me to see things inside me which I hadn’t been aware of before and through the process I was able to discover who I really am, to know myself.
What I really got from coaching was hope, empowerment, knowing myself and I realised “wow I am OK”. I created a vision, a new story for my life and it is happening. My thoughts about what I wanted, potential and dreams have transformed into reality. I’ve taken the action to make it happen and I don’t think that would have been possible without coaching. I have created shifts in my being and this empowered me to take action and to create a different reality! I have since explored relationships without fear and am actively pursuing dreams to travel and write. Everyone around me is really jealous and inspired by the bold choices I’ve made recently such as my decision to go travelling for a year. My friends have seen changes in me and are inspired to implement similar changes. I am now in the vibration of possibilities, I’ve let go of all the expectations, pressure, attachment to results and fear of getting it wrong I was carrying previously. I have shifted into a state of hope, expectancy and openness and life is so much more fun, joyful and lighter. I have been creating possibilities, setting intentions, taking steps and trusting that the right opportunities will be presented to me. Interesting opportunities have been coming to me and I’m saying yes to those which excite me and feel aligned for me. For example, I recently met a woman and shared my vision with her which included my dream to spend some time doing pottery. It turned out that she has a pottery studio in L.A. and she invited me to go there to do pottery! These are the kinds of synchronicities which have been happening for me since I let go of the need to try to control and plan everything which was cutting me off from possibilities and joy.
The coaching process has been very freeing, I no longer feel pressure to get things right, instead I can focus on my vision and trust the process. I know I can always make another choice if something isn’t working for me. I am more accepting of how people are, I get that we are all imperfect and doing the best we can with what we know at the time. I’ve let go of the expectations I had of how others should be and I now accept people as they are and relationships as they are. I’ve learned to stop rescuing people around me, to assert clear boundaries in my relationships and empower myself and others which has been a big shift for me. I was hiding behind the role of caregiver in my relationships with men previously and it wasn’t working for me. I now know where my responsibilities begin and end. I have learnt to listen to and connect with my own needs and wants and to express these.
I now feel ready for a relationship, I want it, I am open to it and I trust that I can attract the right person into my life. I feel so much more grounded, integrated and whole as a person and I want to attract another whole person to share the journey with. I would recommend Grandeur & Love to people!